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Queer Life at Yale: A Guide for Students
Yale is an exciting place to be queer and appreciate queer culture. Queer life at Yale is as diverse and interesting as the people who make up our LGBTQ community. Satisfy your academic thirst with events organized through LGBT Studies. Interested in outreach? Help others through the coming out process by becoming a peer counselor in the Queer Resource Center, or spread LGBTQ Awareness across campus and in the local community with the Queer Straight Alliance. Worried about getting a job? Meet with one of the liaisons to the LGBTQ community at Undergraduate Career Services, or go to one of their LGBTQ events they hold throughout the semester. Feeling social? Help plan a dance, go to a party, or attend a screening sponsored by the many graduate and undergraduate LGBTQ organizations on campus. Curious about Queer Life after Yale? Become part of the long line of amazing LGBTQ alumni through GALA, the Gay and Lesbian Alumni association.
Coming Out at YALE
"When I decided to come out my senior year, I was nervous about telling my suitemates, who were all straight, macho athletes. But they were amazingly supportive. One of them asked me why I waited so long, since hed heard queer parties were the best on campus."
To recognize one’s sexual orientation, gender identity, or sexual identity is deeply personal, and being public about it can be extremely difficult. For many, coming out means liberation from all the fears that stop one from being happy with who they are. It can mean showing those you love your true self for the first time. Some view coming out as a political action. Every time someone comes out as LGBTQ, they are spreading awareness of LGBTQ issues through friends and family into the community.
Everyone comes out in different ways. If you are questioning your sexual identity, you may start by hanging out more with your LGBTQ friends and talking about sexuality. At Yale, one can come out by jumping out of the big pink door on Coming Out Day to the cheers of friends, or one can nervously admit their sexual identity to a peer counselor in the Queer Resource Center.
Coming out is an ongoing process. Whether coming out for the first time, coming out all over again as trans, or just continuing to live as an out member of Yales community, there are resources you can turn to for support. Throughout your life, coming out will be a continual process that characterizes your relationship to the world and the people around you. Never let yourself be pressured or pressure others into coming out. Only you can determine when the time is right for you.
A Resource Guide for Coming Out at Yale
Freshmen Counselors
If you’re a first year undergrad, your freshmen counselor can be a great resource to use during your coming out process. All counselors should be receptive to LGBTQ issues. If you’re not comfortable talking to your own freshmen counselor about queer issues, there are out LGBTQ identified counselors you can turn to for support. If you’re not sure who to talk to, send an email to the LGBT CO-op at lgbt@yale.edu and they’ll send you in the right direction or contact LGBTS coordinator Rachel Pepper rachel.pepper@yale.edu.
Queer Resource Center
In the Fall of 2005, the LGBT Co-op opened its Queer Resource Center as a safe space for LGBTQ students. Trained peer counselors staff the center, providing a confidential space to talk with queer or questioning students about anything they want. The space provides queer resources such as LGBTQ magazines, movies, and books for anyone interested in exploring queer culture or just hanging out with some cool people in a fun space. Hours vary so check with the Co-op for more information.
Counseling
Counseling is available on and off campus, from professionals and peers. See the end of this section, entitled "Problems and Issues," for specific counseling resources. If you are looking for a specifically LGBTQ therapist or counselor, you can get a referral through the New Haven Gay and Lesbian Community Center, www.nhglcc.org, or from the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association, www.glma.org.
Religious Support
Your religious community, or a faith you are exploring, can support you in your new-found queer identity. For more information on queer-friendly religious life at Yale and in New Haven, contact the University Chaplain at http://www.yale.edu/chaplain/ or Rabbi Lina Grazier-Zerbarini, rabbi.lina@yale.edu at Slifka Center, 80 Wall Street, 432-1134.
What's it like being queer and out at Yale?
Yale is a generally accepting place. It can be hard to come out anywhere, and of course Yale’s not perfect, but it’s as great a place as any to come out.
There are other LGBTQ students openly LGBTQ professors and staff, a LGBT studies program, and even a recently appointed special advisor to the deans on LGBTQ issues, Maria Trumpler. maria.trumpler@yale.edu
I'm a new student, how do I come out to people?
There are many different ways to come out to people. You can be very casual about it and slip it into conversation, or you can decide to discuss being LGBTQ with your friend on an individual basis. You will almost definitely be surprised about how much of a non-issue it is, so you will probably be making more of a big deal of it than they are. You know your friends better than anyone else and so just judge what you think will work best with them. Its always a good idea to trust your own instincts.
Can I come out to professors?
You should always feel comfortable discussing sexuality in the classroom setting at Yale. How personal you decide to make the discussion is up to you. On an individual basis, professors are open to discussing a wide range of issues with students. They may not always be the most knowledgeable about LGBTQ issues. In the upcoming years, the LGBT Co-op is launching a campaign to identify at least one professor in every academic department that will be available to discuss LGBTQ issues relevant to their department. This will provide a good opportunity for students to discuss LGBTQ issues relevant to academics with a professor that understand the context and some of the background, and will also serve as a good reference to other services available on campus such as the queer resource center.
How should I tell my parents?
The best time and place to come out to your parents is different for everyone. It’s important that you are in a place in which you feel safe and comfortable. Some who fear the worst decide tell their family in a public space to avoid conflict. Make sure your family knows that you are the same person you’ve always been. Keep communicating. Encourage them to ask questions if they have them. They may have some misconceptions about the queer community. The more they know about being LGBTQ, the less scary it will seem to them. Most importantly, take care of yourself. Make sure you have someone you can talk to, whether they are a resource at Yale, or just a good friend. This process can be very difficult. You don’t have to go through it alone. Some students at Yale may be hesitant to come out to their parents if they are still financially dependent on them. This is an important consideration for some students and may inform your decision to come out or not.
Do I have to come out?
Living life in the closet can be a very stressful ordeal. Not being able to truly be yourself with friends, family, or in the workplace is a constant struggle. However, the world is not perfect, and some people find the prospect of coming out a harder burden to bear. Remember that everyone should decide for themselves when they want to come out. But remember, the anticipation is usually worse than the action itself!
For more information on issues that may be important to LGBTQ college or college bound students, there is a new book co-authored by LGBTS coordinator Rachel Pepper published by the Princeton Review, The Gay and Lesbian Guide to College Life. (ISBN 0375766235)
Will I have any friends?
Most people have at least one LGBTQ identified friend at Yale. There are very few who would actually choose not to be friends with someone solely based on their sexual orientation. In addition, the queer community itself is full of interesting, talented people who are always open to making new friends. Contact the LGBT Co-op to start making these connections.
Equal Opportunity at Yale
President Levin announced on Tuesday, October 17, 2006, in a message to all Deans and Directors, the Yale Corporation vote on September 28, 2006 to amend the University’s Equal Opportunity Statement, effective immediately. The Equal Opportunity Statement now reads as follows:
“The University is committed to basing judgments concerning the admission, education, and employment of individuals upon their qualifications and abilities and affirmatively seeks to attract to its faculty, staff, and student body qualified persons of diverse backgrounds. In accordance with this policy and as delineated by federal and Connecticut law, Yale does not discriminate in admissions, educational programs, or employment against any individual on account of that individual's sex, race, color, religion, age, disability, status as a special disabled veteran, veteran of the Vietnam era or other covered veteran, or national or ethnic origin; nor does Yale discriminate on the basis of sexual orientation or gender identity or expression.”
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Military Recruiting at Yale Law School: A Chronology of the Litigation
In 1995, Congress enacted the Solomon Amendment specifying that any university barring access to military recruiters would lose all its federal funding. At that time, almost all law schools in the United States excluded from their recruitment programs any employer who discriminated on grounds of sexual orientation. Yale Law School adopted this policy in 1978 among the earliest law schools to do so. The U.S. military’s exclusion of openly gay and lesbian lawyers from employment violated the law school anti-discrimination policies, and law schools were the principal targets of the Solomon Amendment.
Enforcement of the Solomon Amendment was relatively relaxed during the Clinton Administration, but when George W. Bush took office in 2001, federal enforcement efforts immediately escalated. The imminent threat of losing all federal funding led virtually all law schools, including Yale, to exempt military recruiters from their non-discrimination policy. The Yale Law School faculty, however, specified that its exemption was only temporary and instructed the Dean to explore all avenues of legal relief against the Solomon Amendment. Unlike the policies of many law schools, the Yale policy did not bar military (or any discriminatory) employer from access to the school but instead withheld any active law school assistance, especially access to its Career Development Office website for scheduling interviews and exchanging information with potentially interested law students. The Department of Defense insisted, however, that withholding any advantage from military recruiters violated the Solomon Amendment. After extended, fruitless negotiations with the Department, in October 2003 forty-five members of the Yale Law School faculty (some two-thirds of the faculty) filed suit in the Federal District Court in Connecticut, claiming that the Solomon Amendment violated their constitutional rights to free speech, freedom of association and academic freedom. Two weeks later, the Yale Law School student LGBT organization, Outlaws, filed its own suit alleging that their independent constitutional rights as students were violated.
In mid-September 2003, a separate lawsuit had been filed in a New Jersey federal district court challenging the constitutionality of the Solomon Amendment; this lawsuit was a class action, composed of several law schools, individual law professors and students. Unlike the Yale suit, the plaintiffs in this case (known as Forum for Academic and Institutional Rights (FAIR) v. Rumsfeld) asked for an emergency hearing. The district judge ruled against them while the Yale suit remained pending, and the FAIR plaintiffs immediately appealed to the Third Circuit federal court of appeals (which has jurisdiction over New Jersey federal district courts).
The Yale faculty and student cases proceeded to a full factual hearing in 2004 and in February 2005, U.S. district judge Janet Hall ruled in favor of the Yale faculty, holding that the Solomon Amendment violated their rights to free speech and association. (She dismissed the student suit as moot, on the grounds that in the faculty case, she had given all of the relief that the students independently had sought.) The Government immediately appealed Judge Hall’s ruling to the Second Circuit federal of appeals (which has jurisdiction over Connecticut district courts).
Meantime, in November 2004, the Third Circuit reversed the New Jersey district court and held for the FAIR plaintiffs that the Solomon Amendment violated their speech and associational rights. The Government requested Supreme Court review of this ruling and in May 2005, the Supreme Court agreed to hear the case. In March 2006, the Supreme Court unanimously overturned the Third Circuit, holding that law school recruitment policies were not constitutionally protected speech and the presence of military recruiters on law school campuses was not forced association between them and law schools or their faculty.
This Supreme Court ruling effectively reversed the grounds on which Judge Hall had held in favor of the Yale Law School plaintiffs. The Supreme Court did not, however, directly address the academic freedom claim that the Yale suit had advanced, and the Yale faculty plaintiffs continued to press this claim in the Second Circuit, notwithstanding the unfavorable ruling of the Supreme Court in the FAIR case. In September 2007, the Second Circuit ruled that the Solomon Amendment did not violate any of the Yale faculty’s constitutional rights, including the right to academic freedom.
This final exhaustion of the possibility of legal protection for the Yale faculty meant that the Department of Defense was now free to terminate all of Yale University’s federal funding some $350 million. Although most of the University’s federal funding goes to the Medical School and Yale Law School receives virtually no federal funds, the Law School faculty decided that it would not jeopardize the activities of the rest of the University by enforcing its non-discrimination policy against the military recruiters. The Law School thus must pursue other means to dissociate itself from the U.S. military’s discriminatory policy.
Some events in Yale's queer history
In the over three hundred years since its founding, Yale has educated and been home to some of the most prominent queer scholars, activists, and artists in the nation's history. In the past half-century, we have become a nationally known center for LGBT activism and scholarship. Below is a smattering of events in Yale's queer history:
1913
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Cole Porter graduates from Yale College and becomes one of the most celebrated popular composers in American history
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1946
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Modernist lesbian genius Gertrude Stein bequeaths her papers to Yale
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1952
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Martin Duberman graduates from Yale College. Later, he becomes a pre-eminent and prolific gay historian and the author of Stonewall
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1955
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Richard Raskind graduates from Yale College. Later, as Renee Richards, she becomes a champion tennis player, winning at Wimbledon in 1982
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1957
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Larry Kramer, future co-founder of Gay Men's Health Crisis and ACT-UP, graduates from Yale College
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1969
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LGBT students found the first gay organization at Yale, now called the LGBT Co-op
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1975
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Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick, M.A. '74, receives Ph.D. in English from Yale. Later she writes Between Men and Epistemology of the Closet, foundational texts in queer studies
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1982
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GALA, Yale's Gay and Lesbian Alumni Association, was founded. David Leavitt, an undergraduate at Yale, publishes his first short story in The New Yorker. It is the magazine's first openly gay piece of fiction
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1983
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Jennie Livingstone graduates from Yale College. Seven years later, she produces and directs Paris is Burning, an acclaimed documentary film about drag balls in New York City
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1984
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Judith Butler, B.A. '78, M.A. '82, receives Ph.D. in Philosophy. Within a few years, she becomes a founder of American queer theory, writing the groundbreaking Gender Trouble and The Psychic Life of Power
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1987
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Groundbreaking gay historian John Boswell helps found the Lesbian and Gay Studies Center/Research Fund for Lesbian and Gay Studies at Yale
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1988
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First Gay and Lesbian Studies conference at Yale
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1989
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George Chauncey, B.A. '77, M.A. '81, receives Ph.D. in History from Yale. Chauncey becomes one of the US's premiere gay historians, writing the classic Gay New York, and is now on faculty at Yale.
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1990
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Boswell appointed History Department Chair
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1995
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PRISM founded by queer students of color
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1998
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Women's Studies becomes Women's & Gender Studies and adds a track in lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender studies
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2001-2002
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Yale hosts NUJLS Jewish LGBT Conference, Transcending Boundaries Bi/Trans Conference, and Beyond Visibility: Queer People of Color Shattering Single-Issue Politics
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2002
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Founding of Larry Kramer Initiative for Lesbian and Gay Studies at Yale.
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