Judge your child's behavior by his actions rather than what he says. For example, rather than taking his word on cleaning his room or doing his homework, always check that he did it before he watches TV or gets to go out.

When checking your child's chores or homework always point out parts that were done well before you begin talking about what should be changed.

When checking your child's chores or homework, always point out parts of a poorly done chore in a positive / neutral way. For example, "Nice job making your bed. You just need to put your dirty clothes in the hamper." Rather than saying, "You didn't clean your room!" However, always praise first before asking for more.

If you struggle with getting your child to do certain things- try asking less of your child until she works consistently. For example, if your daughter has always refused to make her bed, have her pull just one sheet up or put the pillow in the right spot. Once she masters the first task then ask her to do another.

Rather than looking at "rewarding" your child as "bribing", think instead of rewards being used as incentives. When used properly it could prevent a lot of arguments and battles.

Punishments never teach a child what to do. Instead think of what you want from your child. For example, lying- tell the truth; fighting- playing nicely or sharing; whining/crying- acting like a big girl or using a big girl voice. You can always reward your child with a sticker or an extra story when she does these things. Remember praise is your most effective tool.

When you are feeling like you might loose control and yell at your child, take a break, count to ten, and walk away instead.

Try to treat yourself at least once a week. Surprisingly this makes you a better parent. Treat yourself to a special coffee, a good book, or a night out with friends.

When taking away a privilege as a punishment, keep it short. Remember- you do not need to punish for long periods of time for it to be effective.

When using mild punishments the most important consideration is to be consistent.

Try to catch your child being good, even for little things, and then praise enthusiastically. For example if you see her playing nicely with siblings, go ahead and make a big deal about how nice she is being.

Try to spend special time with your child each week. For example, play a game, go the park, or read a book together. Remember- you are more rewarding than those video games.

List three things that you want your child to do and then praise consistently each time he does them.

When it comes to rewards and incentives try to think in terms of, "when you do, you get", rather than "if you don't, you will loose."

Never rationalize, explain, or lecture during a child's temper tantrum. It is ineffective and you might even become more upset and agitated. Instead wait and talk to your child when he is calm.

When rewarding your child for good behavior try to give the reward as soon as possible after the positive behavior occurs.

Try to put visual reminders of past good behavior where your child can see them. For instance if you have charts or stickers that were given for good behaviors, hang them on the refrigerator so they are highly visible. This can be highly reinforcing.